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For BETTER or for WORSE!

Lesson No.

5

Jul 29, 2023

Subject: For BETTER or for WORSE!

Scripture Reading: Ruth 1: 1 – 19

Memory Verse: Genesis 2: 24


Objective: To give a deeper understanding of the importance of being truly committed in our marriages.


Introduction: ‘For better or for worse’ is not a phrase found in the bible, yet it is consistent with God’s standard of marriage. Marriage by God’s standard is a lifetime covenant that man cannot sever. When two people truly commit, it helps both parties to navigate through all the seasons of marriage. Traditionally at weddings, the phrase ‘for better or for worse’ is a vow that the bride and groom commit to keep before God and witnesses. It is for this reason that marriage is a serious commitment and should not be pursued lightly, as it is a covenant and not a contract.


1. What does Hebrews 13: 4 (part a) clearly declare about marriage?


2. God’s design for marriage was clearly stated and if applied will enable couples to build better marriages. What outline was given by God from the beginning? Genesis 2: 21 – 24


3. What is said about two when they are joined together? Matthew 19: 6 (part a); Ecclesiastes 4: 9 – 12


4. Marriage was designed by a perfect God. However, due to sin, we strive to cope in an imperfect union, with two imperfect individuals. How are the wife and husband charged to live amidst the odds? Ephesians 5: 22 – 25


Note: Marriage is a lifelong commitment that requires love and devotion, but most importantly God should be the pilot of your relationship. Marriage doesn’t mean ‘for better or for better,’ as challenges will come which will see couples facing ‘the worse.’


5. Identify some issues that are faced by married couples that may lead one or both parties to throw in the towel. Discuss when these issues arise, how are we encouraged to deal with them? Colossians 3: 12 – 19; Ephesians 4: 29 (part a) and to whom do we seek Godly counsel? Titus 2: 1 – 9


6. Divorce is usually the first solution when the storms of marriage seem to have no end. What warning is given to believers? Matthew 5: 32; Luke 16: 18; Matthew 19: 5 – 6; and how are we reminded about the seriousness of this commitment? 1 Corinthians 7: 10 – 11 & 39


Note: Most couples kick off their marriage fully in love. The same love down the road may end up tired and withered after dealing with issues, harsh setbacks, among other marital challenges. The road to a happy marriage is far from easy, and with an increasingly high divorce rate to date, it demonstrates all too well that couples opt not to complete the journey. As believers, we should stand by what the bible teaches and work through the challenges together as they come.


7. Marriage is a beautiful thing and does not always mean the bad will outweigh the good. What examples from the bible can be used to show believers that their marriages can work? Discuss


Note: Even the best marriage goes through ups and downs. Abraham and Sarah, for example, bore no child up to the point that both were stricken in age, which was not reason enough to give up on their union. Through the distress of not bearing children and being despised (Sarah), they still remained as one, despite the odds. God turned things around bringing them through a new season in their lives.

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